Attachment style quiz: secure, anxious or avoidant?

10 items, about 2 minutes. Built on the anxiety and avoidance dimensions from adult attachment research. Your answers are scored in your browser and never uploaded.

  1. 1. When a partner is slow to reply, I start worrying I did something wrong.

  2. 2. I often need repeated reassurance before I feel secure.

  3. 3. I worry that I care more about my partner than they care about me.

  4. 4. A little distance in a relationship sends my mind racing.

  5. 5. I rarely worry about being abandoned.

  6. 6. When someone gets very close, I want to keep some distance.

  7. 7. Showing my vulnerable side to a partner makes me uncomfortable.

  8. 8. I prefer to handle problems alone rather than rely on others.

  9. 9. I find it natural to turn to a partner when I need help.

  10. 10. Being close to and depending on someone feels comfortable to me.

This is a self-reflection tool, not a clinical diagnosis. Attachment tendencies can change with experience and relationships.